From Aku, with love

 Tazkirah from an ustaz  How to treat our children....... Newborn to 7 years old - treat them like a king 8 to 14 years old - treat them like a slave  (it means we can ask them to do work at home) 15 to 21 years old - be their friend 22 and above - be their adviser Ba bye!

We are going to Melaka today, where else. It's our weekend activity. My son wants to buy hot wheels. His new hobby and mine too. If I like the design or the brand, I will buy and give it to my son. I love the limited edition ones but they're expensive. His bedroom fulls with these hot wheels. I asked him to hang them so, it's easy to see. If the box ones, he will put into the display cabinet, together with his mini LEGOs.  I love seeing my son smiling. He is a gamer  because that's what he loves. I didn't know my son is so good  at it until his friend came to my house. He told me that their team was the top one in the state during their school time. My mistake. I didn't know my son well.  Business, not that good but i told him he needs to gain experience. Learn how to promote products and the most important one is he learns on how to communicate with customers. It's ok . Let him learn.

When my mother was in the ultrasound room, my sister and I had a chat with a Chinese couple. The husband asked us how many siblings do we have. Suddenly, the husband said , "daughters always take a good care of their parents". Then I told him that my brother and my brother in law accompanied my mother too.  I told the couple not only daughters can take care of their parents, the sons can also do that. I told them about my husband's siblings and how the brothers took a great care of their late mother. Before that my late father in law took care of his wife but after he passed away, his sons did the same thing to their mother. Treated her well, like a queen. His wife said, "exampling". I smiled and said , " yes". The husband looked at me and asked whether my husband treats me well. I laughed and said ," Yes. He let me retire last year when I was 53 years old." The couple laughed. 

Yesterday, I went to Pantai Hospital. It's about my mother. Alhamdulillah, the specialist told my mother that there's nothing to worry. She can still enjoy  eating her favourite food  but not too much. Well, that's good news. Oh ya my bang ngah, my kak chik and my brother in law were there too. 

 I met Achik RR today. I attended a kenduri at her mother's house with my husband and son. And it's a double happiness after I met and hugged her mother. It has been so long I haven't seen her. When I studied at boarding school, I went there once. Thank you for the scrumptious meals that her mother cooked when I stayed there. Thanks again. And Alhamdulillah, her mother looks healthy.   Oh ya. During my nephew's wedding, Ateh RR came with her son and her daughter in law. Thank you so much. I was so happy to meet her . I introduced Ateh to my big family. Just like Achik  did today. She introduced me to her big family. So proud of having both of them as my friends.  . Actually, I am so proud to have RR gang as my DnA friends. We have been close friends since secondary school. I can't wait to see all of them in our this year's reunion. All for one. One for all !

 About Al Quran, I prefer to use the same Al Quran.  I bought that AI Quran when I had "mengaji" class .  An ustazah came to my mother's house to teach me , my husband , my mother and my son. After we moved here, she came to our house to teach us Al Quran until we "khatam". Don't laugh la . At least, we still wanted to learn.  My Al Quran looks old now. My husband wrapped it with a plastic book cover. Thank youuu. I don't want to use another Al Quran. It has become my best friend. 

 I was quite bored so I did an IQ Test last Friday evening. Using my phone, I answered the test while I was lying down. Saja seronok-seronok.. For this test, we cannot use a paper, pen or calculator.  There're Maths riddles and graphic questions. My score? I got 120. Then that night, before I slept, I did another IQ Test. I used a different website . I didn't expect the questions would be more difficult and tricky. My husband was watching YouTube . So it did distract me a bit. I thought my score would be lower than 120. But the result was 122. Ok lah for a 54 year old lady. I felt very hungry after answering the test. I went to the kitchen and fried an omelette. I ate it with bread.  I know it's very bad, eating before sleeping. Sighhh. The test is good to sharpen our mind. But there's another one, Al Quran. Read it. It's good for our brain.  Don't worry about this IQ thing. Our EQ is more important. Take a good care of our health and always be happy.  Yup that...

May be , you think you marry the wrong person. You think you have made mistake. But don't give up and don't stop praying to Allah. Try your best to create the "Rumahku Syurgaku". Insya-Allah, your husband will be the right person for you. BUT if your husband is like  Dr. Omar, the wife abuser in "Aku Bukan Ustazah" drama, forget about "Rumahku Syurgaku". Better run for your life. Don't think twice. 

When we first met, I asked myself, Who's this guy? While we were dating, Looking at him, My brain was calculating, Plus, minus, multiply, divide, Was he the right person for me? After being husband and wife, I asked him, Where did you hide? We should marry after SPM.

 It's hari raya. I just returned from my mother's house. I'm so happy to see my sister's and my brother's family. My in-laws, my nieces and nephews, their spouse and their children.  My mother, still a strong great-grandmother. Alhamdulillah. She and my sister, busy serving food on the table to make sure everybody had their lunch. Thank youuuu. Both of them are great hosts 💕. 

If you are single, People will ask you when you are going to get married. Are you choosy?   If you are married, People will ask you when you are going to have a child. Are you planning? If you have been married for sooooo long but childless,  People will ask you when you are going to visit a specialist . Do this and that treatment. Or try the traditional one. Go for a massage. Pengsan! If you have a child, People will ask you when you are going to add a family member. The more the merrier. Yak yak yey! If you have many children, People will ask you when you are going to have time for yourself. You are so busy with your children.  If bla bla bla .......... Sighhhhhhhhh. Semua tak kena. Before we ask the person those kind of kepochi questions, imagine we are that person. Try to be in his or her shoes. Then we'll know the feeling. Ba bye.

 An (3 years old) with Wan Su. Conversation I  Wan : Ok here's your rice and fried fish             (the fish bones were removed first).            Can you eat on your own? An : Yes. While eating her food..... An: Mmmmm. Wan Isu cooked well. Tasty. Wan : Oh thank you. So sweet of you. It's            only a fried fish  Conversation 2 Wan : What are you eating? An : Chocolate Wan : You should share with Ibu. An : Ibu cannot eat chocolate . She will         vomit. Uwek uwek uwek. Wan : Ohhhh. And what is this ? An : Jelly. Wan : Ibu can eat jelly. An : Ibu doesn't like jelly. Wan : How do you know ibu doesn't like            jelly? An: Ibu gave jelly to An. Wan : So, who's going to eat all these? An : An  

The first 10 days of Zulhijjah, try to do good things that Allah loves.  Sometimes we think the one that we do is only a small thing but may be,  it's  big to Allah. We don't know.   Take care ok and ba bye. 

Sorry. I share again my anniversary post. I just want to have it on my blog. ************************************ We are here in Ganu kiteee. Staying in Grand Puteri Hotel for one night. This hotel is near the white mosque. Tomorrow, my husband plans to take me to Seri Malaysia Hotel , Temerloh. Ok lah. Alhamdulillah.  Only just now, I found out the reason my husband brought me here. Our wedding anniversary is on May 31. Alhamdulillah . I thought he didn't remember. It's been 28 years and I am still in love with this guy.  Our marriage is not a perfect one. We did argue . I think almost every day but one of us will raise the white flag ( always the one who feels guilty )  and we'll be back to ok. Only gaduh manja.  Let your spouse be your best friend . Any problems must be discussed. Don't keep it to yourself. Share your problems and stories. Laugh and cry together . And please appreciate your partner ok. Ba bye. . .