From Aku, with love

 My mother in law (Ma)'s advice 1. Don't call your husband his name. Must call him " Abang ". Make your husband feel proud and happy.   2. Kelantan ladies always wear a gold bracelet . Your hand won't look nice without it .  3. Do qurban as qurban is only once a year. It's not like sadaqah. Sadaqah, anytime. Thank you 🥰. 

 It's 29th. February today. Not every year we have this date. It comes every four years. My son and I reached Kelantan yesterday morning. We performed our subuh prayer at Ma's house.  My son told me that I snored during the bus night travelling.  Aiseyman. No adik Sado watching Anime movie, no VIP uncle answering phone calls and I had my son sat beside me, of course I could sleep well.  Actually, I was tired because after subuh prayer at home last Tuesday, I checked and watered my plants. Luckily, it rained twice there when I was in Kelantan. Alhamdulillah.  Ma is ok now but I am still  worried about her. She looks tired. Whenever I read Al-Quran near her bed, I would hold her hand and she would respond it by holding  my hand tightly. Sometimes, when I called her, she would answer. She recognized my voice.  I kissed her forehead and her hand.  I always call her my husband's Queen , now , she's also my Queen. 

 Love our parents is what Allah wants us to do. And as we know being kind to parents are a few times mentioned in Al Quran. They are very special. They never think of themselves. If you ask them , " Why do you work so hard? ' They will answer ," It's for my family. For my children ". Money is for the children, food is for the children, a good home is for the children, everything is for the children. They want to give the best for their children. It is their responsibility as parents but I think it's more than that. It's because of their love.  When I look at my Emak and Ma, I can see and feel their love for their children. They love their children more than their life. Not everybody can do that. Only parents. Our parents.  

 I went home from Kelantan by bus last night. The last time I rode a bus was in 2019. I was nervous so, I made an early preparation. I made sure I didn't eat spicy food and I took early dinner around 6 p.m. yesterday.  And my last drink was also at that time . Until I reached home this morning , then I dared to have a drink.  It's adventurous to me. Travelling alone without my family. I bought two tickets for two seats. I didn't sit near the window. I put my backpack and sling bag on that empty seat.  Then, I was ready to sleep. But luck was not on my side. A sado guy , in front of me was watching Anime movie. So the bright light and the voices from his phone did disturb my peaceful night.  And a vip uncle who sat near my seat was so busy answering calls  . His ringtones... sighhhhhh.  And tonight,  I am going to ride a bus to Kelantan but this time with my son. My husband is waiting for both of us there. That's my motivation to have another night...

 What do you think of someone who is the owner of a shop , the boss and also the worker of his own shop? Easy to say, he's the only person who works in the shop. I really salute this guy because he knows everything about the product that we want to buy. From A to Z. Any question, he can give me the answer.  Yalah ..if you have a small business, less customers and you  think that you can do it alone, why do you have to hire a worker? You can save your money like this guy. 

 Is it lucky to have smart parents? All depend. If the parents are smart and their children are also that smart, there'll be no problem. It gives the children an advantage to ask their parents about their school work. They can discuss it together. How about if the parents are not that smart? That's good because the children won't feel any pressure in their study. In their mind , they just want to study hard, get good results, further their study , get a good job and help their parents. It's common. The big problem is when the parents are smart but the children are average or weak. I really-really pity my boy. Most teachers  gave him high expectation when they met my boy because they know us. So did his friends.  Parents are teachers , of course the son must be smart . It gave him pressure and he was not confident in himself. He tried to study hard but the results wouldn' t be good, only average or pass. He cannot be like me or like my husband. I know my son is not g...

 When we have been married for more than 20 years , of course our partner is everything to us. But the problem occurs when we are having a hobby , we forget our priority. Well, you know that my hobby is gardening and I love my spring garden very much. When my husband told me that he's going  to Kelantan alone after my son's exam, I wondered why. He never went back alone and why this time? He told me that he's going to stay there may be for 2 weeks . What? 2 weeks?   I looked at my husband but in my mind , my garden.  Garden? Yup,  that's the reason . What should I do? This is more difficult than sitting for SPM exam. If something happens to my plants, I can replace them but my husband , I don't want anything bad happens to him.  So,  my decision is to follow him. When I told  my husband about it,   he just smiled.....yup he wins. He beats my garden.